We worry about issues, but stress is itself an issue. It inhibits clear thinking, it drains us of energy, it upsets our sleep and our digestion. It may make us irritable, bitter, regretful, gloomy, depressed...
What a price to pay for something that serves no useful function.
We learned to stress at a young age, but they were childish fears, but these childish fears carried to maturity. Worrying is all about control, all of us have a vision of how we want things to be, but when matters or situations don't turn out as we expected we feel helpless and overwhelmed with an unknown and unpredictable future. We find it tough to give up a issue, which then begins to contaminate our thoughts and thoughts. The fact remains that we're our own worst enemy and lots of our troubles are within our head. We place the stamp of who we're on every preception. We see the world from the perspective of ourselves and in doing so our emotions and anxieties blurr our vision.
Worry makes cowards of us all. It compels us to turn away from acting upon a issue or indeed it might even create the illusion that the issue doesn't exist in the first location. Stress pushes us back into ourselves, reinforces the belief that the worst will happen, we can not cope, we are helpless in the stream of circumstances that carry us inexorable towards unhappiness.
All of those who have feared have become experts in it over the years. But worry itself is adorable, it's a distorting lens that hides from us the classes it's teaching. It causes us to find an opportunity for a risk and a challenge for a problem.
Issues are often generated and imposed upon us by others or rather, by our inability to stop others from loading that burden of difficulty on our shoulders. We habitually and implicityly say'yes' to issues, because a lot people don't have the coping methods to assert'no'. Manuel Smith's'When I Say No I Feel Guilty' is a helpful and empowering book on assertiveness.
Potentially we've got a lot of control over how we speak to ourselves. But often, the gloomy melody of stress runs in our minds as a sort of background noise to our own lives. The irony is that we do not even make an attempt to eliminate it, but just listen to the same old song of despair and gloom. However, by establishing a coping dialog we could diminish and dispel the dull repetitiveness of worry. Take some time out each day to give yourself a pep talk. Be optimistic, confident, determined. Just tell yourself with as much certainty as you can muster that you're likely to take deliberate actions to achieve everything you can and refuse to be bothered by circumstances which are beyond your control.
Below are a few tips on the best way best to control your worring. I know from experience that this isn't a simple thing to do, but with a little patience and perserverance you will soon have the ability to control your worrying rather than it controlling you.
Think about what is worrying you, and ask yourself what possible actions you can take to aliviate the issue. Then take that action immediately.
To bring harmony into your life is to accept that some things are quite beyond our control. As the saying goes'Change what you can change and accept what you can not'.
Stress thrives on inactivity and lack of choice, it lies coiled in quiet areas. So launching yourself into a busy routine of work and leisure, by keeping your mind occupied on other things will give it less time to worry.
Worry also thrives on delay and procrastination, so do it against whatever worries you, put the exact same energy in solving issues as worrying about them and sufference will soon be a thing of the past. When you've taken all possible actions then make sure you give up the problem.
Failure is an attitude, a frame of mind. It's not reality. Cultivate a positive attitude and affirm to yourself your intention to be successful.
Worry closes doors and narrows horizons, its a fruitless activity but stubborn in the grip it has on our minds. So you need to be alert for favorable opportunities.
The world is not what we see, but what we think we see. And how we view it determines the amount of happiness we enjoy every day. So begin taking a look at life more positively, this is not always easy to do but by forcing your mind to think positively it will eventually become a habit.
Our days can be problem-ridden, every issue bringing with it the burden of stress. However, to know that a problem is a preception is to have divested ourselves of some of its weight. Problems left unattended blossom in the mind but correctly considered, they are diminished, and we're free to commit our time and energy in living, as opposed to in profitless worrying.
Typically, for the majority of the time, problems are just thoughts from the imagination, without necessarily any company basis in external reality. Worrying is a waste of our valuable time, we can't control events or circumstances, we can only do our absolute best in attempting to address the issue. So instead of using your energy in worrying, use the energy to do it.
Worry is a guest that has remained to long. It moves in invitied, and from its existence claims the right to remain. It's unwanted, undesirable, burdonsome. And the irony of it all is that it creeps into our lives while we are still living there. Go in there and kick worry out. Take extreme steps - take any steps you know will succeed.
Some of us will go to enormous lengths to avoid doing something that they find awkward or difficult, dull, unfamiliar, brand new. The trouble is that a lot of problems simply don't go away by themselves. In procrastinating, we hold ourselves back. We might wish the problem had never occurred. But it has. And the only way through to some problem free tomorrow is to handle those troubles today.
Worry makes us believe things can not change - except for worse. While worrying, we can not address the issue or enjoy the other areas of our life, which may not be connected with the problem in any respect.